Chnlove Asia Dating Tips: Dont's Play with a Chinese Woman's Heart

Chinese Lady in Traditional Costume

I have always dreamed of marrying a beautiful Chinese lady. Three years ago, I joined the Chnlove Asia dating site, and have corresponded with quite a few ladies since then. Here are a few thoughts I would like to share with guys who intend to find a Chinese wife. Hopefully, these will give you a better idea of what Chinese women are like, and how to make your relationship work.

Chnlove Asia Dating Tips: Chinese Women A to Z

There is a general perception among Western men about Chinese women being loyal and family-oriented. Of course, there are tons of Chinese girls that are as much players as the guys and break hearts without a second thought. However, at least in my experience, most Chinese girls are very affectionate and are eager, sometimes too eager, to give their love to any man that is sweet and kind to them, especially when they are young.Chinese girls are extremely affectionate and usually very loyal, because their man is providing them with stability and security. In return she gives her affection, her body, and her fidelity. Generally speaking, once a Chinese girl commits to her partner she does so for life; it will take a great apocalyptic wrong by her partner to dissuade her from that commitment.They are incredibly loyal, especially if that loyalty is reciprocated.

On the other hand, Chinese women are generally traditional and conservative. Although open ladies do tend to make good wives for Western men, if the lady is too open about her sexuality then she could be a liability. Compared to their Western counterparts, Chinese women are often seen as conservative and traditional in their love life and marriage. For the majority of Chinese girls, there is no such thing as a casual relationship. A Chinese girl usually interprets any intimate behavior, such as gifts, romantic messages, sex, etc., as indications of long-term relationship potential. For these reasons, you should display traditional gentleman behavior when you are bringing her out on your first date. This will send the right signals to her, showing her that you are someone who respects her as a female.

Don't Play with Her Heart

Women do tend to like bad men, but don’t be too bad when you’re dating Chinese ladies! Remember that Chinese ladies tend to like alpha men who can take responsibility and show them respect. Everyone has fanciful illusions of fairy tale love stories, but of course reality is a harsh teacher. A man can throw out words and money and attention willy-nilly but a girl's affection is her precious possession, and when it is tossed aside after being used up, it can be devastating. Chinese girls are very naive about love and romance, in spite of it being largely absent from Chinese culture. Yet a heart is a heart, and love is an incredible treasure, and when it is placed in the hands of someone who recognizes just how special it is, that heart will sing.

Chnlove Club Dating Tips: Is She For Real?

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Chnlove Club is one of the largest dating sites for Western men seeking marriage with Chinese women. If you are reading this article, it probably means you and I share the same interest in Chinese women. Personally, I admire the loyal and submissive nature of Chinese ladies, and have been a member of Chnlove Club for a few years now.

Are the ladies in Chnlove Club players?

The simple answer to this question is: use your common sense! I have read tons of articles on all kinds of online dating forums. What have I found out? Many of these articles are true...for the person that wrote them! You can read what other people have to say, but when it comes to love, it is your heart that has the final say. Undoubtedly, there are some players out there, but based on my own experience, most of the ladies in Chnlove Cub are exactly what they claim to be, loyal and loving. I'm not trying to make these women seem better than they are. I think each man needs to judge for himself about the woman he's writing to. For me, the woman I'm writing to is not an image queen, not a woman of the street, just a woman that wants to be loved and love in return. When you get right down to the nitty-gritty, isn't that what we're looking for?

Why are these gorgeous Chinese women interested in a guy like me?

Like most men who use online dating service, I have my doubts from time to time. I am just an ordinary guy, not particularly good-looking or rich, and definitely not young. Why would all these beautiful ladies want to marry a guy like me? Then it hit me that many of these Chinese women have been tossed aside because their mate has joined forces with a woman much younger. I have read that most women in their 30's and older, with a child, are generally considered as undesirable for Chinese men. From information I've read, most of these women work long and hard to get their child through school. Most of them know that their chances of finding a Chinese husband are slim to non existent. So just try to understand what most Chinese women seeking Western husbands may have gone through. Life may not be easy for them. You, a good man, employed, money in savings and a home. In their shoes would you marry a man that had that? So my advice is just follow your heart. If you feel she's worth it, take a chance. Your heart and mind can't be totally wrong, can they?

Personal Review on Chnlove.com

Chnlove.com is the dating website that brought me and my beautiful Chinese wife together. I think I owe something back to Chnlove for helping me find my true love. So here I would like to share my own experience and hope it will help more people find the same happiness that I have found.

My Story on Chnlove.com

When I came on to Chnlove.com by chance, I was surprised to find a truckload of seemingly great women. Of course like everyone else here, I thought to myself: this is too good to be true. I mean, these ladies are so honest and up front about everything, not to mention good looking. So, after getting a bunch of admirer letters, I decided to write back to a couple of them just to see what would happen. Anyway, some ladies fell by the wayside because either I wasn't feeling it or just did not think they were serious about it. Then I found the lady of my dreams. After exchanging a few EMF mails, my lady and I fell head over heals in love with one another. Six months later, I went to China to meet her and soon after that, we got married!

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What are Chinese Women Really Like?

Based on my own experience, most of the ladies on Chnlove.com are exactly what they claim to be. Honest, sincere and very smart. They just want to love and be loved in return. In general, Chinese women are loyal and trust worthy. They make great wives and loyal friends. From what I've heard and seen, if a Chinese woman loves you, they generally stick by you. Once a Chinese girl commits to her partner, she does so for life. Many of the Chinese women may not be as forthright about telling you "I love you" openly, but you will know it by the little things they do FOR you. My girl washed my clothes, by hand, in the sink every night without me saying anything to her. If they truly love you, they will treat you like a king. All they want is for you to love, respect and protect them.

Thank You, Chnlove.com

I think Chnlove does a good job and most of the agencies do a good job. Most people don't realize that without the agencies and the EMF service, most of these relationships would fail before they even got started. That is why I am so thankful for Chnlove. My wife and I would have never met if it wasn't for Chnlove.

Chinese women's Opinions on International Marriages

As international marriages became more and more popular in China , one of famous Chinese newspapers - Nanfang Daily teamed up with sina.com.cn put together an online poll asking for Chinese women's input and views on international marriages. There are a total of 3,464 people participated in this survey, you may know more about Chinese women from the results below:

1. For many Chinese, matrimony between two middle-aged people can only be born out of practical needs and has little to do with romance and love. Do you think that this is also the prevalent opinion of Westerners and international marriages?
A. Marriage is often about love for westerners, more so than it is in China    (52.20% / 1,811)
B. Undecided    (19.7% / 681)
C. Infidelity in marriage is more prevalent in the west, so the quality of marriage is even lower than it is in China    (16.6% / 574)
D. Marriage in the west is about the same practicalities as it is in China    (11.5% / 398)

2. What do you think is the central factor in the international marriage of the couple cited here?
A. The riches and fame of a foreign man    (44.1% / 1528)
B. A woman obviously seeking a better future    (23.6% / 817)
C. Love    (21.6% / 747)
D. Intercultural appreciation    (7.7% / 267)
E. Other    (3.0% / 105)

3. If you're to compare the international union cited above with typical marriages between people from a single country, which of the two has the better odds at success in your opinion?
A. Can't say for certain    (51.2% / 1,773)
B. National marriages have better odds    (24.5% / 848)
C. International marriages have better odds    (24.3% / 843)
4. If you had the opportunity, would you consider international marriage?
A. I'd be willing    (67.5% / 2,338)
B. No, I'd rather not    (18.3% / 634)
C. Undecided    (14.2% / 492)

5. Ideally, where would you want your foreign significant other to be from?
A. North America    (29.8% / 1,036)
B. Western Europe    (28.7% / 993)
C. Northern Europe    (13.8% / 478)
D. Oceania (Australia, New Zealand)    (9.9% / 344)
E. Other    (6.7% / 231)
F. Southeastern Asia    (6.1% / 210)
G. Japan    (5.0% / 172)

6. If you were to consider international marriage, which would be the other major factor in play aside from love?
A. The overall social and cultural tolerance for individualism    (42.9% / 1,490)
B. The lure of the exotic    (22.9% / 792)
C. Better things and bigger possessions    (20.8% / 720)
D. Bigger and better career developments    (9.8% / 338)
E. Other    (3.6% / 124)

7. If you were to consider international marriage, what would be your biggest concern?
A. The obvious cultural and social differences between us    (51.4% / 1,783)
B. 2Whether or not I could adjust to the foreign culture    (17.8% / 616)
C. My language and work skills    (15.1% / 523)
D. Leaving behind my parents    (12.7% / 439)
E. Other    (3.0% / 103)

8. Would you be willing to immigrate to an impoverished country in Africa for the love of your life?
A. No    (78.2% / 2,708)
B. Yes    (21.8% / 756)

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Step by Step to Dating Chinese Girls Online

There are lots of attractions in China, and Chinese girls are the most alluring of them all. Their feminine charms and their gentle, tender loving sets them apart from girls from the rest of world. But the problem, lies in the huge distances between Asia and the West. Thousands and thousands of miles definitely makes it difficult to set up a relationship, much less maintain it over a period of time. Now, Chinese dating site - Chnlove helps solve that problem.

Meeting up
Most of Chinese dating site are designed specifically to allow Chinese to meet up with each other, but Chnlove serves to bridge the gap between the western man and Chinese women. A Western man signing up for Chnlove will put him at a great advantage over similar dating services, as the general populace of Chnlove is composed of Chinese women, and these women are carefully selected and verified by their local dating agencies. They are true and sincere. So Chnlove is definitely worth considering if you want to meet up with an Chinese girl.

Developing the relationship
Once you have made contact with a promising Chinese girl, the next step would be develop a relationship with successive mails. Take the initiative to express interest in her, but avoid sexual and explicit undertones with your language. Chinese girls tend to prefer gentlemen who are a bit spicy in their own unique ways.

Maintaining the Relationship
All women, especially Chinese girls, desire love that is tender and intimate. This is where your communication skills will also help you live up to the challenge, especially since you cannot meet her face-to-face on a regular basis. You need to be able to express your love and intimacy with her without being physically there, and that can prove to be a challenge when you want to maintain the relationship you have already established. Find common venues to spend time together, whether they are simple live Chat or Love Calls. Remember, what you cannot make up for in physical contact, you have to make up for with time and attention.

Arranging a meeting
Chinese women are human too, and they crave to be hugged and shown some degree of physical attention. This is why you cannot truly say you are a couple until you have met each other and spent some time together. On Chnlove site, the online environment can only get you so far, and you had better be prepared to make a few airplane trips if you really want to keep the relationship going.

Making it official
This is the ultimate goal of forming an online relationship with Chinese girls, and will prove to be a more permanent decision for the both of you. If you want to make the relationship official, then one of you has to go live with the other. This means either you will go to her country, or she will go to your country. It sounds simple enough, but you have to remember to arrange all the legal documents and financial obligations considering you are the man in this relationship. For more info, please read our older post: Chnlove Info: The Certificates Needed for Getting Married in China

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Chinese Culture and Tradition: Courting a Chinese Girl

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Many gentlemen on Chnlove may want to know what Chinese people do when courting, especially when they are taken up with a Chinese girl, they even hope to treat her in a Chinese way. So today, we'd like to share transitional Chinese courting culture - though some have changed in modern society, we believe, some are still deeply affecting Chinese girls. Culture always goes to the bone!

Courting is far more indirect in Chinese culture than in most Western societies. Transitionally, Chinese relationships pass in several stages, usually lasting for a long period of time. An engagement, even lasts for several years and as far as marriage is concerned, it is viewed as a lifetime commitment.

The Friendly Beginning - Often the starting point of a Chinese relationship is a friendly date. The couple will go out together in public places as friends only and will be accompanied by other friends. During this stage of courting there will be no public displays of affection, the man has to be discreet and friendly or he will be accused of being too arrogant. It is too early for kissing or holding hands at this point.

Discreet Chinese Dating - That is the second stage of Chinese courtship and now couples may go out together without the company of their friends, but again, the keyword here is "discreetly". Chinese women cannot afford to be fast, they are expected to be hard to get because it is seen as an appropriate behavior when they are courted. A Chinese girl never shows her admirer that she is also in love with him immediately.

Playing hard to get is one way by which the Chinese can measure the sincerity of the man interested in her. It also lets her show the man that he has to work hard to win her love. Some courtships may last for years before the woman accepts her admirer's love and they become a term for boyfriend-girlfriend.

Taking the Relationship Public - After some time the couple may decide to come out in the open about their romance. At this time they will inform their family and friends about their relationship. Every man who wants to be taken seriously by a Chinese is obliged to visit her family and introduce himself formally to her parents. It is rather inappropriate to court a Chinese girl and formalize the relationship without informing the girl's parents.

There is a tacit rule here that says: "When courting the Asian you are not courting just her, you are courting the entire family". Following this rule will help you earn her respect by entrusting her family with high regard.

There are certain traditions that have to be observed when visiting the Chinese's family. For example, if the man wants to be acceptable to the girl's family, he has to give small gifts every time he drops by her family's house. Then after being a couple with your Chinese girl for quite a time and decide to get married, you should do is ask the girl's parents for her hand.

When courting a Chinese woman you will find that she is shy and reserved even when holding great feelings for you. This is a part of her culture and even for a Western man there is no way around that. You should treat your Chinese girl with respect, lead the courtship with your heart and you may find a lifetime partner that will enrich your life as you have never imagined.

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What Chinese Woman Want

Most gentlemen may want to know what exactly a Chinese woman want out of a man when joining Chnlove and begin their dating. It's really a hard question. Usually they think the answer is four things: Tall, dark, handsome and rich. But factually, this is usually not what they want in a man. Have you ever seen a beautiful Chinese woman on the street holding hands with an unattractive, short and trashy guy? Most women will not tell you exactly what they want.

If you were to ask any Chinese woman on the street they usually tell you these things:

".......I want someone to make me laugh and smile."

".....a confident and powerful man..."

"...I want a man to treat me like a princess."

In essence, Chinese women wants three main things out of man:

Confidence
Research reveals women look for, and place a high value on, men who are intelligent, ambitious, and who work hard for advancement and high goals. They want a confident man. Chinese women may want a man that knows what he wants in life. They don't want a man who is scared of taking risks and who is not comfortable in their own skin. She will think what will happen when they get married – will she feel comfortable living with a man that is scared of life and is confident enough to provide a good living to her and her children?

Security and stability
They want a man that they can be looked after no matter what. Being rich and powerful will give her more security and stability in her life compared to a poor person. These two important characteristics also imply that the man will share his resources and continue reliably protecting and caring for the family in all future unforeseen circumstances.

Challenge and Sense of Humor
They want a man to challenge her. Most Chinese woman may lead boring lives, they want a man to stimulate their minds and make them laugh. Having fun and making them laugh are good ways to really challenge them. A man's good sense of humor can develop camaraderie and enlivens the relationship better than any other single characteristic. Good humor also signals good intelligence.
Love and Commitment
These two words have different meanings in different cultures but they imply a man’s willingness to give his full attention and all his resources unselfishly to his mate and offspring. Also implied is the man’s promise of future fidelity and continued protection and shared resources. When a Chinese woman says that “love” is important, what she is implying is that she wants to insure that his support in the future will continue. A continuing on-going “love connection” is reassuring to the woman for future protection and survival.
If you give Chinese Woman all these four things, we will have no doubt you will able to hook up with any woman you desire.

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Chnlove Tips: Importance of Good Online Dating Profile

When reviewing profiles of Chnlove, we are regretted to find that some gentlemen have posted a empty profile or some profiles are too simple just stating they want to meet a Chinese woman. Do not they know that their profiles are the best advert? Here we'd like to share our opinion on the importance of good online dating profile.

If you're serious about finding a suitable Chinese woman online then please do not ignore importance of your online dating profile on Chnlove. Your dating profile is critical to making a good first impression, which is a first step to increase the number of letters from our Chinese lady member, and at the same time, your dating profile can improve communication quality with other singles because well created dating profile should tell other what kind of person you would like to meet.

If you want to increase the number of letters, you should use "eyes-catching" subject header for you dating profile. For example, it is recommended to start your profile description with love quote, greeting, joke or something from your heart. However, hundreds of letter does not mean quality. You can't date 100 Chinese women at once. Well-created dating profile will help you to get fewer responses but they will be more interesting for you.

Think, if you make your Chnlove online dating profile too simple just stating a bit about yourself and not specifying what kinds of Chinese women you want to meet in terms of age, distance, likes, dislikes, etc., then your inbox would probably flooded with messages from people you wouldn't even want to meet. This happens very often because when browsing empty profile with nice photo, then some Chinese women may think that they must try to contact you because everyone has a chance…

But if your Chnlove profile states requirements person should meet to become your date it will force to think about their chances. Sometimes small details could be decisive. In example you like pets, while other person have allergy, you like sitting at home while other member like pubs and night clubs, often such small details could stay invisible until first date or even first month of relationship… So by pointing out your preferences in your dating profile you can save plenty of time. Dating profile should tell as much as possible about your interests.

A good Chnlove online dating profile also needs to contain what actions would you want Chinese women to take; what exactly are those actions that are okay by you and even actions that are not. This will increase the number of letters receive from people of your same wavelength and people you are interested to meet.

In short, dating profile is best area, which you can edit to increase the number of quality contacts when you use dating service. So now, are you still like to post a incomplete and boring profile? Back to Chnlove to polish your profile as soon as possible!

To know more about how you can create a great dating profile, please read: Polish Your Profile

Why Chinese women may be Good for Western Men

If you're currently a member of Chnlove than you're probably there because you're tired of the the type of relationships between most of Western Men and Western Women. You don't like the women who grew up in the "ME" generation, always looking strictly for "What's in this relationship for me?" But when you meet a new Western Woman who you find attractive, before the conversation has even really begun, she's already drilling you about your occupation, your assets and your money,etc. You've heard that Chinese Women are different than that, so you're come to Chnlove to check it out.


In fact (Let's be honest about that). Chinese Women on Chnlove will also want to know that you have an income and that you are financially stable. Like women everywhere, she also wants a secure future. The difference is, most Chinese Women come from a world where a normal job is a great job, a simple home is a great home, and family is everything.

- Will there be food on the table: good enough.
- Will we have a home that I can clean and cook in and make comfortable for you: good enough.
- You're a truck driver (mechanic, teacher, male nurse, etc): that's fantastic. Just be reliable.

So, if you want a simple life where you do your job, which is the primary income earner, and she does her job, which is manage the home and family, then Chinese women make great life partners. That's not to say that she won't help you with business if that's what you want, but you'll be the boss. And it doesn't mean she's not prepared to have a job too. She will likely prove to be a very hard worker. It does mean that running the home is her job as well. You will have a say in all the important decisions, but when it comes to day to day operations sit back and let her take over, it's what she does best.

Generally, only a Chinese woman commits, she will invest every ounce of her being into your future, your home, your family and your life together. Chinese women like to spend as much time with you as possible. The more you can be together the happier they are. They're happy to go out with you and play, spend time at the movies, relax in a pub with your friends, walk on a beach, anything so long as she is with you. Equally a quiet night at home is perfect. To her, time with her husband is important. But that doesn't mean you have to be with her every moment, it just means that every moment of your time you do give he will be appreciated.

Unlike Western Women, a Chinese Woman will not sit around with her buddies secretly badmouthing you. To her, if you look bad she looks bad, and she would lose face. So long as you are covering the bare basics, she will outwardly praise you to the roof, because if her friends think you look good, then she gains face. And if she says you're not a good husband, then implicitly she is failing as a wife.

Chinese women like to please their men, and to receive acknowledgment that they have pleased him. Every Chinese woman loves it when her man gives her a little gift, because it means she has pleased him and he appreciates it.

None of this is to say that they never will be angry, never will express their concerns. And when a Chinese Woman reaches the boiling point, sit back and stay silent. Let her get it out, let her have her say, and acknowledge her righteousness, or watch out. Given proper respect, she will return it many times over. She will honor your love, your marriage and your family, always placing your needs and those of your children above her own.

If you want to date such a Chinese woman, then you're in the right place. Chnlove Online dating is absolutely a great way to find, meet and get to know Chinese women.