Step by Step to Dating Chinese Girls Online

There are lots of attractions in China, and Chinese girls are the most alluring of them all. Their feminine charms and their gentle, tender loving sets them apart from girls from the rest of world. But the problem, lies in the huge distances between Asia and the West. Thousands and thousands of miles definitely makes it difficult to set up a relationship, much less maintain it over a period of time. Now, Chinese dating site - Chnlove helps solve that problem.

Meeting up
Most of Chinese dating site are designed specifically to allow Chinese to meet up with each other, but Chnlove serves to bridge the gap between the western man and Chinese women. A Western man signing up for Chnlove will put him at a great advantage over similar dating services, as the general populace of Chnlove is composed of Chinese women, and these women are carefully selected and verified by their local dating agencies. They are true and sincere. So Chnlove is definitely worth considering if you want to meet up with an Chinese girl.

Developing the relationship
Once you have made contact with a promising Chinese girl, the next step would be develop a relationship with successive mails. Take the initiative to express interest in her, but avoid sexual and explicit undertones with your language. Chinese girls tend to prefer gentlemen who are a bit spicy in their own unique ways.

Maintaining the Relationship
All women, especially Chinese girls, desire love that is tender and intimate. This is where your communication skills will also help you live up to the challenge, especially since you cannot meet her face-to-face on a regular basis. You need to be able to express your love and intimacy with her without being physically there, and that can prove to be a challenge when you want to maintain the relationship you have already established. Find common venues to spend time together, whether they are simple live Chat or Love Calls. Remember, what you cannot make up for in physical contact, you have to make up for with time and attention.

Arranging a meeting
Chinese women are human too, and they crave to be hugged and shown some degree of physical attention. This is why you cannot truly say you are a couple until you have met each other and spent some time together. On Chnlove site, the online environment can only get you so far, and you had better be prepared to make a few airplane trips if you really want to keep the relationship going.

Making it official
This is the ultimate goal of forming an online relationship with Chinese girls, and will prove to be a more permanent decision for the both of you. If you want to make the relationship official, then one of you has to go live with the other. This means either you will go to her country, or she will go to your country. It sounds simple enough, but you have to remember to arrange all the legal documents and financial obligations considering you are the man in this relationship. For more info, please read our older post: Chnlove Info: The Certificates Needed for Getting Married in China

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Chinese Culture and Tradition: Courting a Chinese Girl

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Many gentlemen on Chnlove may want to know what Chinese people do when courting, especially when they are taken up with a Chinese girl, they even hope to treat her in a Chinese way. So today, we'd like to share transitional Chinese courting culture - though some have changed in modern society, we believe, some are still deeply affecting Chinese girls. Culture always goes to the bone!

Courting is far more indirect in Chinese culture than in most Western societies. Transitionally, Chinese relationships pass in several stages, usually lasting for a long period of time. An engagement, even lasts for several years and as far as marriage is concerned, it is viewed as a lifetime commitment.

The Friendly Beginning - Often the starting point of a Chinese relationship is a friendly date. The couple will go out together in public places as friends only and will be accompanied by other friends. During this stage of courting there will be no public displays of affection, the man has to be discreet and friendly or he will be accused of being too arrogant. It is too early for kissing or holding hands at this point.

Discreet Chinese Dating - That is the second stage of Chinese courtship and now couples may go out together without the company of their friends, but again, the keyword here is "discreetly". Chinese women cannot afford to be fast, they are expected to be hard to get because it is seen as an appropriate behavior when they are courted. A Chinese girl never shows her admirer that she is also in love with him immediately.

Playing hard to get is one way by which the Chinese can measure the sincerity of the man interested in her. It also lets her show the man that he has to work hard to win her love. Some courtships may last for years before the woman accepts her admirer's love and they become a term for boyfriend-girlfriend.

Taking the Relationship Public - After some time the couple may decide to come out in the open about their romance. At this time they will inform their family and friends about their relationship. Every man who wants to be taken seriously by a Chinese is obliged to visit her family and introduce himself formally to her parents. It is rather inappropriate to court a Chinese girl and formalize the relationship without informing the girl's parents.

There is a tacit rule here that says: "When courting the Asian you are not courting just her, you are courting the entire family". Following this rule will help you earn her respect by entrusting her family with high regard.

There are certain traditions that have to be observed when visiting the Chinese's family. For example, if the man wants to be acceptable to the girl's family, he has to give small gifts every time he drops by her family's house. Then after being a couple with your Chinese girl for quite a time and decide to get married, you should do is ask the girl's parents for her hand.

When courting a Chinese woman you will find that she is shy and reserved even when holding great feelings for you. This is a part of her culture and even for a Western man there is no way around that. You should treat your Chinese girl with respect, lead the courtship with your heart and you may find a lifetime partner that will enrich your life as you have never imagined.

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Chinese Culture & Tradition : Dragon Boat Festival

Do you know that next Monday (6th June, 2011) is Chinese Dragon Boat Festival? Officially on falling on the fifth day of the fifth lunar month, the Dragon Boat Festival is also known as Double Fifth Day. This is a transitional festival with a hitory of more than 2, 000 years, commemorates the death of a great Chinese national hero and China's earliest poets, Qu Yuan, who drowned himself in the river over 2,000 years ago to protest against the corrupt rulers.

Legend of the Dragon Boat Festival's Origin
At the end of the Zhou Dynasty, the area we now know as China had fallen into a state of fragmentation and conflict. While the Zhou dynasty had ruled for several centuries, several other states, originally feudal domains, tried to carve out their own kingdoms. The state of Qin would eventually emerge the victor and unify all of China under one rule for the first time in history.

Qu Yuan served as minister to the Zhou Emperor. A wise and articulate man, he was loved by the common people. He did much to fight against the rampant corruption that plagued the court-- thereby earning the envy and fear of other officials. Therefore, when he urged the emperor to avoid conflict with the Qin Kingdom, the officials pressured the Emperor to have him removed from service. In exile, he traveled, taught and wrote for several years. Hearing that the Zhou had been defeated by the Qin, he fell into despair and threw himself into the Milou River. His last poem reads:

Many a heavy sigh I have in my despair,
Grieving that I was born in such an unlucky time,
I yoked a team of jade dragons to a phoenix chariot,
And waited for the wind to come,
to sour up on my journey

As he was so loved by the people, fishermen rushed out in long boats, beating drums to scare the fish away, and throwing zong zi into the water to feed braver fish so that they would not eat Qu Yuan's body.

The Modern Dragon Boat Festival


Dragon Boat

 Starting from that time to this day, people commemorate Qu Yuan through Dragon Boat Races, eating zong zi, and several other activities, on the anniversary of his death: the fifth day of the fifth lunar month.
Dragon Boat races are the most exciting part of the festival, drawing crowds of spectators. Dragon Boats are generally brightly painted and decorated canoes. Ranging anywhere from 40 to 100 feet in length, their heads are shaped like open-mouthed dragons, while the sterns end with a scaly tail. Depending on the length, up to 80 rowers can power the boat. A drummer and flag-catcher stand at the front of the boat. Before a dragon boat enters competition, it must be "brought to life" by painting the eyes in a sacred ceremony. Races can have any number of boats competing, with the winner being the first team to grab a flag at the end of the course. Annual races take place all over China, Hong Kong, Macao, Taiwan, and other overseas Chinese communities.

Zong Zi

zong zi

Zongzi is an essential food of the Dragon Boat Festival. In early times, it was only glutinous rice dumplings wrapped in reed or other plant leaves and tied with colored thread, but now the fillings are more diversified, including jujube and bean paste, fresh meat, and ham and egg yolk. If time permits, people will soak glutinous rice, wash reed leaves and wrap up zongzi themselves. Otherwise, they will go to shops to buy whatever stuff they want. The custom of eating zongzi is now popular in North and South Korea, Japan and Southeast Asian nations.

Talisman and Charms
On Dragon Boat Festival, parents also need to dress their children up with a perfume pouch. They first sew little bags with colorful silk cloth, then fill the bags with perfumes or herbal medicines, and finally string them with silk threads. The perfume pouch will be hung around the neck or tied to the front of a garment as an ornament. They are said to be able to ward off evil.

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BTW, in China, we will have a public holiday on Dragon Boat Festival, so this weekend will be a big weekend (includes Saturday, Sunday and Monday) for most Chinese women on Chnlove.

It will be a good chance if you want to have wonderful Love Call or Live Chat with these women. Of course, sending some gifts or flowers to please them in this transitional festival is also a good idea.